I've been rather sickly my entire life. I've lived with severe asthma from a very young age, chronic pain from Degenerative Disc Disease and weak joints since my late teens, severe diabetes for over a decade... but then in 2017, everything changed when I collapsed in public. I couldn't walk safely as a fall risk, often couldn't speak clearly due to acute brain fog, and was perpetually exhausted. and dizzy. After 8 years of living with symptoms that completely devastated my life, I was finally diagnosed with POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome), and later hEDS (Hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. Now that I know my enemy, I've been able to make lifestyle changes and learn coping skills that have vastly improved my quality of life.

I’m a 37-year-old lesbian with a whole passport stamped by life’s hardest lessons. I done walked through so much fire I should glow in the dark, but somehow I still find my smile — even if it be strolling in late like it own the place. Since I was 12, I been losing folks yearly, including my dad most recently. I’ve climbed outta two divorces and I’m pushing through a third, with two of those being straight-up narcissistic rollercoasters. I’m an Army vet, the baby of five, and still evolving — growing, stretching, healing. God still working on me, and I’m working right beside Him. I’ve lost everything — even my dog — and built myself back from scratch. I’m a depression and anxiety survivor, and I lived through moments when I ain’t wanna stay on this earth. But I’m still here. Still fighting. Still choosing me. If you need somebody who knows pain but can still crack a joke in the middle of the storm, I’m that one.

For a long time, I felt like I was living behind a version of myself that made others comfortable — hiding my feelings, softening my truth, and carrying the weight of family conflict and isolation. Coming into my identity and learning to embrace vulnerability wasn’t an instant transformation; it was a slow, sometimes painful process of realizing that authenticity is what actually creates belonging. Now, I offer space for others who are navigating similar crossroads — people figuring out who they are in the world, healing from rejection, or simply longing for real connection. Together, we talk openly about identity, boundaries, family, and friendship. My hope is that you leave our conversations feeling a little more seen, a little more yourself, and reminded that it’s okay to take up space exactly as you are.

Being single after divorce isn't just about ending a marriage - it's about reclaiming yourself. I've learned that holding on to someone who pulls you down isn't love; it's drowning yourself; a type of elf sabotage. True love doesn't leave bruises or scars, and sometimes the kindest, most loving act is letting go of what keeps you anchored in pain. Through my own experiences I've rediscovered independence, rebuilt self-worth, and learn to trust myself again. I guide others to do the same dash to heal and brace their strength, and move forward with confidence and clarity.

My story isn’t perfect — it’s real. I’ve stumbled through loss, career changes, heartbreak, anxiety, and depression, but I’ve also found strength in my faith and the community that held me up. I wear my scars and my colors proudly as a member of the rainbow gang 🏳️‍🌈. Now, I’m here to help others find their footing and rediscover their light. If you need a mentor who’s walked the hard roads and still believes in hope, let’s connect.

Self harm was my way of feeling something real when the emotional pain became unbearable. The physical act became a language for the chaos inside, a release of pressure from The unseen weight of trauma, addiction, and depression. I lived in fear - hiding scars, adjusting clothing and managing judgment from those I loved. Pain cause more pain; the cycle felt analyst. Yet, through recovery, I learned that self-harm does not define my worth. It taught me empathy, resilience, and the importance of being seen and heard. Now I got others through the darkness helping them understand their triggers, look for glimmers, find healthier outlets, and reclaim their life with hope, compassion, and self-love.

I've always believed that being a parent is one of the hardest things to do. No one has a guide or manual for parenting; every child is different, and you no longer think only about yourself. Every decision you make will impact your children. That said, I realized that working all day and having only a few hours to spend with my kids wasn't the reason I became a parent. I wanted to build a bond and raise amazing human beings, but I couldn't do that with just the limited time we had after school and work, so I decided to resign from the medical field and homeschool my children. I'm able to build the bond with them that we desire to have, control their environment, what influences them, and give them the opportunity to succeed at their own pace. The things that I couldn’t do while working in the medical field. There are challenges, but everything has challenges. I believe the rewards are worth the challenges.

I have been out as bisexual since 1995. I have been heavily involved in the queer community ever since. If you are exploring your orientation, let me help you navigate the experience of coming out and living your truth!

TRIGGER WARNING!!! My life has been rife with challenges. I was born into an abusive marriage and conceived in marital rape. I went on to be abused and neglected by both my parents in different ways, including being raped by my father from ages 8-10. I was neglected and physically abused by my mother, who attempted to strangle me when I was 14. That's when I went onto the streets. I was homeless from right after my 15th birthday until I was 17. In that period, I was groomed and taken in, then sexually trafficked, by people I trusted. I escaped at age 17 and went into group homes to help me get on my feet. I was emancipated and got my first place at 17. I went on to be involved in multiple abusive marriages. Now in my mid forties, I have benefited from perspective, solitude, and therapy tremendously. I have learned how to listen to my gut, avoid entanglement with toxic relationships, and find peace and healing and personal fulfillment. I have learned to assert my boundaries.

I was faced with making a decision about an unexpected pregnancy twice in my life. Once at 17 and again at 25. The circumstances were different each time. At 17, my parents chose for me and at 25, I had to go through my own process to choose what was best for me. Both times, the choice was to terminate the pregnancy. It was the right decision for me each time. Both experiences had significant influence on my life and choices moving forward. I had to go through different grieving and healing processes for each termination. One thing I would have benefited from is someone to talk to who had been there.

After many years of hardship and struggle I could barely recognize myself and so much had changed. I had to grieve the person I was and come to acceptance with the unique beauty in the new version of myself. After emerging from the swamp of depression of anxiety, I discovered that I was not entirely gone and that my core values I still held even if they looked different. Reconnecting with those, while also embracing & adapting to change and being radically accepting of the person I now was, allowed me to rebuild trust in myself and move forward with my life. I believe that you can do this too and want to help be by your side.

I have been out as bisexual and navigating the waters of ethical non-monogamy for over 25 years, came out as specifically polyamorous and got involved in the community 15+ years ago, and was involved in regional poly community leadership for 5 years. I have tried just about every relationship configuration, made all the rookie mistakes and learned from them.

Being a mother in recovery is one of the hardest battles I've faced. I've had my children taken, felt the despair that relapse can bring, and fought hard to get them back. I know how it feels when the system meant to protect kids ends up pushing families apart. But I also know how to stay strong, rebuild trust, and reclaim your role as a mother. Through my own journey I discovered ways to survive, heal, and protect your family while staying in recovery. I'm here to help other mothers find that same strength and Hope.

I’ve had roles that looked great on paper with titles, recognition, and fast growth, but they still left me feeling disconnected, unfulfilled, or like something was missing. I’ve changed careers four times in search of clarity, each shift fueled by that quiet inner nudge that said, “This isn’t it.” Through each pivot, I wasn’t chasing status. I was chasing meaning. I wanted to feel aligned, competent, and like my work mattered. What I’ve learned is that purpose doesn’t show up all at once. Instead, it’s built, uncovered, and revealed through small moments of truth, courage, and awareness. If you’re in a role that feels misaligned, or you’re asking, “What am I doing all this for?”, you’re not alone. I help people reconnect with what matters, redefine success, and find clarity when the spark fades. You don’t have to start over to feel purposeful, but you do have to start listening.

I've walked through hell and back. Addiction, chaos, and darkness were my reality for years, and I've made mistakes that could have broken me - but I survived! I've cried at the gates of hell, and somehow, the universe reached down and pulled me out because it knew I was strong enough to turn around and reach back in to pull just one more out - hacksaw ridge status - one more person, one more life. Today, I guide people who feel lost, trapped, or hopeless to transform their pain into strength, reclaim their lives, and create hope for themselves and those around them. Together, we turn survival into purpose and lived experience into empowerment.

The holidays can bring up a lot: loneliness, pressure to “be okay,” complicated family dynamics, old triggers, or the heaviness of trying to hold everything together. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or just need someone steady to talk with, I'm here for whatever you need. It's your time. I offer grounded, nonjudgmental support from real lived experience. Whether you’re dealing with sadness, stress, shame, conflict, or the quiet ache of feeling unseen this time of year, you don’t have to sit with it alone. Our conversations can help you slow down, regulate, understand what’s coming up, and feel more in control of your emotional world. My approach is calm, thoughtful, and present. You set the pace. If you’re dealing with stress, conflict, emotional shutdown, I’ll help you slow down and center. If you need someone solid to talk with this holiday season, I’m here.

I had my son at age 23, divorced my son's narcissistic father at 26, and successfully raised an entire good man to independent adulthood as a single mom with no family support network. If you struggle with parenting in general or single parenting specifically, allow me to support you on your journey.