Hi, I’m Lola—a Life Coach and survivor of unhealthy relationships. I rebuilt my life by setting boundaries and practicing self-love, and now I hold a safe, non-judgmental space for others ready to heal, reclaim their voice, and find peace.

I carried guilt and shame for years, thinking if I stayed strong and kept moving, it would somehow fade. But it didn’t. It just grew heavier, quietly shaping how I saw myself. It wasn’t until I stopped running and started speaking my truth that I began to feel free. Let It Go was created from that place. It’s a listening space for those who are ready to release the weight they’ve been carrying. A space where your story is met with compassion, not judgment. Together, we’ll unpack the guilt, soften the shame, and make room for grace to flow in. This is where healing begins, with honesty, gentleness, and the courage to finally let go.

For much of my life, I faced challenges that tested my emotional resilience and sense of self. Through my own healing journey, I learned the value of slowing down, reflecting, and developing healthy coping tools. Over time, I became the friend and support system others could turn to during their hardest moments. My experiences have taught me the importance of listening with compassion, respecting each person’s unique story, and creating a safe space where people feel truly seen. Now, I want to share that same steady presence to help others navigate change, rebuild confidence, and discover their own inner strength.

For much of my life, I believed that vulnerability meant weakness. I thought I had to keep my struggles hidden and always appear strong. But over time, I learned that the moments I felt most connected, supported, and loved came when I allowed myself to be truly seen. Vulnerability opened the door to healing, deeper relationships, and self-acceptance. Now, I want to share that truth with others—that being vulnerable doesn’t make you fragile, it makes you beautiful and sets you free. There is beauty in showing up as you are, without masks or defenses. Together, we can explore how embracing vulnerability leads to strength, courage, and freedom.

Being a mother in recovery is one of the hardest battles I've faced. I've had my children taken, felt the despair that relapse can bring, and fought hard to get them back. I know how it feels when the system meant to protect kids ends up pushing families apart. But I also know how to stay strong, rebuild trust, and reclaim your role as a mother. Through my own journey I discovered ways to survive, heal, and protect your family while staying in recovery. I'm here to help other mothers find that same strength and Hope.

Self harm was my way of feeling something real when the emotional pain became unbearable. The physical act became a language for the chaos inside, a release of pressure from The unseen weight of trauma, addiction, and depression. I lived in fear - hiding scars, adjusting clothing and managing judgment from those I loved. Pain cause more pain; the cycle felt analyst. Yet, through recovery, I learned that self-harm does not define my worth. It taught me empathy, resilience, and the importance of being seen and heard. Now I got others through the darkness helping them understand their triggers, look for glimmers, find healthier outlets, and reclaim their life with hope, compassion, and self-love.

I've walked through hell and back. Addiction, chaos, and darkness were my reality for years, and I've made mistakes that could have broken me - but I survived! I've cried at the gates of hell, and somehow, the universe reached down and pulled me out because it knew I was strong enough to turn around and reach back in to pull just one more out - hacksaw ridge status - one more person, one more life. Today, I guide people who feel lost, trapped, or hopeless to transform their pain into strength, reclaim their lives, and create hope for themselves and those around them. Together, we turn survival into purpose and lived experience into empowerment.

There was a time I looked around and thought, Is it just me? Everyone else seemed to be climbing the ladder, finding their calling, or at least pretending they had a 5-year plan. Meanwhile, I was drowning in a sea of doubt. I had checked off so many boxes. Got the degree, the job, the accolades, but still felt empty. The path I was on didn’t feel like mine. It felt like it was expected from me. Leaving my career in biopharmaceuticals wasn’t a snap decision. It was a slow unraveling. I stayed longer than I should’ve out of fear of failing, of disappointing people, of starting from zero. But eventually, I chose honesty over stability. I admitted to myself that I wanted a life with more meaning, not just more titles. I didn’t have it all figured out, and honestly, I still don’t. But I’ve learned how to sit with uncertainty without letting it paralyze me. I’ve started over. I’ve built new skills. I’ve redefined success on my own terms. And now, I help others do the same. If you feel like you’re stuck in a life that doesn’t reflect who you are anymore or if you're craving change but don't know where to begin you’re not alone. I’ve been there. Let’s talk about what’s holding you back, and what’s possible on the other side.

I’ve spent way too many nights trying to fall asleep with a brain that insists on replaying that one awkward moment from three years ago or analyzing every possible outcome of a decision I haven’t even made yet. Sound familiar? Overthinking can look like productivity on the outside like you’re being thorough or responsible. But on the inside? It’s often anxiety wearing a clever disguise. It’s fear of failure, fear of regret, fear of what people will think. And it can leave you stuck in loops: what if I mess up? What if I’m too much? What if I’m not enough? I used to think I just needed to “think my way out” of feeling overwhelmed. But that strategy kept me spinning. What actually helped was learning how to name what I was feeling underneath all the thoughts, to pause the mental ping-pong match, and to stop treating myself like a problem to be solved. If your mind is constantly racing, if you’re tired of second-guessing yourself into paralysis, or if you just want someone to help you sort through the noise—I'm your girl.

After listening to so many people, I’ve realized most of us struggle to ask for what we want. Instead of asking, we overthink it. We play out every worst-case scenario until we talk ourselves out of even trying. But most of the time, the truth isn’t as bad as we make it out to be. Sometimes people actually say yes. Or they simply say, “I didn’t know you felt that way.” Asking doesn’t guarantee you’ll get what you want, but it opens the door. It helps you speak clearly about what you need instead of holding it in. It also reduces resentment, because what stays unspoken tends to build tension. The truth is, asking doesn’t mean you’ll get it. But asking does position you to start receiving.

After many years of hardship and struggle I could barely recognize myself and so much had changed. I had to grieve the person I was and come to acceptance with the unique beauty in the new version of myself. After emerging from the swamp of depression of anxiety, I discovered that I was not entirely gone and that my core values I still held even if they looked different. Reconnecting with those, while also embracing & adapting to change and being radically accepting of the person I now was, allowed me to rebuild trust in myself and move forward with my life. I believe that you can do this too and want to help be by your side.

For a long time, I felt like I was living behind a version of myself that made others comfortable — hiding my feelings, softening my truth, and carrying the weight of family conflict and isolation. Coming into my identity and learning to embrace vulnerability wasn’t an instant transformation; it was a slow, sometimes painful process of realizing that authenticity is what actually creates belonging. Now, I offer space for others who are navigating similar crossroads — people figuring out who they are in the world, healing from rejection, or simply longing for real connection. Together, we talk openly about identity, boundaries, family, and friendship. My hope is that you leave our conversations feeling a little more seen, a little more yourself, and reminded that it’s okay to take up space exactly as you are.

My life has been rife with challenges. I was born into an abusive marriage and conceived in marital rape. I went on to be abused and neglected by both my parents in different ways. I was homeless from right after my 15th birthday until I was 17. In that period, I was groomed and taken in, then sexually trafficked, by people I trusted. I escaped at age 17 and went into group homes to help me get on my feet. I was emancipated and got my first place at 17. I went on to be involved in multiple abusive marriages./relationships. Now in my mid forties, I have benefited from perspective, solitude, and therapy tremendously. I have learned how to listen to my gut, avoid entanglement with or leave toxic relationships, and find peace, healing and personal fulfillment. I have learned to assert and maintain firm, healthy boundaries. Today I thrive!

I have been out as bisexual since 1995. I have been heavily involved in the queer community ever since. If you are exploring your orientation, let me help you navigate the experience of coming out and living your truth!

When you grow up in chaos or instability, you learn survival before you learn peace. I understand what it’s like to grow up in poverty and instability, and to have to unlearn the idea that survival is the same as living. This space is for anyone working to heal from the effects of childhood trauma — whether that’s emotional neglect, family addiction, or simply never feeling safe enough to just be yourself. Together, we’ll focus on self-compassion, setting boundaries, and finding your own definition of peace. You don’t have to carry the past alone, and you don’t have to be “over it” to start healing.

As someone that has multiple health conditions, I have learned that while I may have pain, and while i may experience so many emotions, I have learned to be vulnerable through those conditions and I have learned how to open up, and to still respect my boundaries of my emotions, and ive learned to grow as a person who wants to develop my leadership abilities to help others change their lives and help others become the person that they want to be

I've battled knowing who i am for a long time, and after years of continuing to work on myself i found skills that have helped me to be more readily willing to share and open up, and to know and believe in my self worth and to overcome negative self talk and feelings of unworthiness, and feeling unloved, and ashamed. i found the strength to see myself for who i am through my own eyes instead of the eyes of others.

I have always been someone that struggles with creating boundaries and understanding and holding true to boundaries, in order to protect my peace of mind and mental health and have always struggled to prioritize what is important, and to help me not to be stressed out once i make my decisions and learning how to create daily, weekly, and monthly priorities and obligations that must be done, versus things i would like to do or have time to do. Ive had to set up accountability reminders and journal entries in order to hold myself accountable, as well as have other people to hold me accountable to myself.

My first awakening came at 23, when everything in my life suddenly simplified into one undeniable truth: love is what matters most. Not success, not perfection, not external validation: just love. Many near-death experiencers describe this same realization, that love is the core of everything: and I felt that truth awaken in me so clearly that it changed how I saw life, people, and purpose. Years later, in my 40s, a second awakening arrived: quieter at first, then powerful and expansive. Through deep meditation and the Gateway Experience, my inner world opened. My intuition sharpened, my awareness deepened, and abilities I never expected: psychic sensitivity, mediumship, subtle perception began to unfold naturally. Whether you're feeling expanded, confused, curious, or in transition, I help you make sense of what’s unfolding, stay rooted, and integrate your insights with clarity and emotional safety.

I found body doubling about 2 years ago when going through a depression and needed help to get things done. It was a warm, supportive space where I didn't have to do it alone. Here we show up together, set gentle goals, and move through tasks side-by-side. Perfect if you're overwhelmed, anxious, procrastinating, or just need grounding energy to get things done. So if you work better when someone is quietly holding space with you then this session gives you emotional support and gentle accountability while you complete tasks: big or small.