Self harm was my way of feeling something real when the emotional pain became unbearable. The physical act became a language for the chaos inside, a release of pressure from The unseen weight of trauma, addiction, and depression. I lived in fear - hiding scars, adjusting clothing and managing judgment from those I loved. Pain cause more pain; the cycle felt analyst. Yet, through recovery, I learned that self-harm does not define my worth. It taught me empathy, resilience, and the importance of being seen and heard. Now I got others through the darkness helping them understand their triggers, look for glimmers, find healthier outlets, and reclaim their life with hope, compassion, and self-love.

I spent over 35 years using porn and, for most of my life, I couldn’t stop. It was something I hid, justified, and returned to whenever I felt overwhelmed, disconnected, or alone. I didn’t realize how much it shaped my self-esteem, my intimacy, and the kind of partners I chose—including partners who also struggled with porn addiction. For years, I felt trapped in a cycle I couldn’t break. What finally changed was learning how my nervous system worked, healing the emotional wounds I kept soothing with distraction, and rebuilding real connection with myself. I stopped through daily regulation, accountability, and replacing the coping pattern—not through shame, fear, or willpower. Now I help others find that same freedom, clarity, and self-respect without judgment or pressure.

Social media can chipper at some of the loudest parts of our minds, the comparison, the questioning, the bombardment of information, the overthinking, the pressure to be “on.” I’ve lived through intense moments where the noise of the online world drowned out my own voice, where a single scroll shifted my mood, and where overthinking made everything confusing. What helped me was learning how to quiet the noise without disappearing, and how to use social media in ways that supported me rather than drained me. By lowering stimulation and using creativity instead of pressure, my relationship with the online world became more sustainable, clearer and less noisy. Together, we’ll explore how to create a balanced relationship with social media. One where you can express, connect, and be inspired without losing yourself.

In the digital world , bonds form quickly over the Internet. No matter the circumstances surrounding the connection, feelings are still feelings. Our feelings get hurt for any number of reasons, but when the connection begins to feel too strong or feels a little unusual, the connection can become overwhelming. Have you ever been catfished? Have you been scammed by someone impersonating someone else or been suddenly let down by expectations you didn't even realize you had? I was misled in a romantic scam, formed unrealistic bonds with people I never intended to meet in person, and felt intensely connected to the idea of someone who was just a fantasy. I've helped friends pull back from the edge of diving too deeply in an unhealthy digital relationship and helped them reassess and redirect that abundant energy flooding in. I learned to check my own developing emotions and spot red flags. Para social relationships are a consequence of the digital world. Let's talk about it together.

I discovered body doubling in the last few years and it has supported me well in getting things done when I really struggle with task initiation, anxiety and follow through as an autistic and ADHD person. If you're not familiar with it, body doubling is simply the act of communicating the task you're hoping to accomplish to someone else and being with them while you do it. Typically I like to check in before I start, stating what I'd like to accomplish. I also like to check in after the task sharing about how it went. I'd value being your body double partner while you accomplish whatever you'd like. Maybe it's cleaning, making a phone call or going for a walk - something you know you need to do for your health and wellbeing but are really struggling to do. While you complete your task I'll be working to complete a task of my own. We can check in around how you're feeling about the task, too, as there might be many reasons why the task is hard to accomplish.

There was a time when Instagram and Facebook drained me. Every scroll showed friends getting promoted, traveling the world, hitting milestones. I began comparing—questioning where I stood. The joy in their lives made mine feel small. Food videos didn’t help either—I’d crave more, eat more, and feel worse. One day, I paused and asked, why am I letting a screen make me feel this way? That moment sparked a shift. I muted accounts that triggered comparison and followed pages that brought peace—dogs, babies, simple joys. Slowly, my feed became a source of calm instead of chaos. Those small changes helped me breathe easier. I learned that managing digital overwhelm starts with choosing what we allow in. I began to feel lighter. The comparison faded. Joy returned. My feed stopped draining me and started healing me.

I've dated while still figuring myself out, created queer relationships, explored my gender identity, and dealt with issues like anger management and gambling habits. I provide a space where you can share your story without fear of criticism because I have experienced similar things myself. Whether you're working on relationships, quitting a habit, discovering healthy ways to handle conflict, or simply exploring who you are, I'm here to listen and offer support and help.

I’m the guy who sold his agency before the AI tide crested, not because I’m risk-averse, but because I felt called to build alternatives to extraction. Oh, and I learned to write poetry, break free from T.V. got baptized, and now struggle with finding people to help. Let me help you! I do deep research, turn chaos into sharp playbooks, pressure-test assumptions, and ship tiny proofs that real people can touch. I’ve broken free from pornography and stimulant abuse, and I’m learning to unclench—practicing rest, lowering the voltage, reclaiming attention—while still staring down what looks like a looming economic unravelling that I both dread and prepare for. I train my body, cultivate community, and prefer barter-like reciprocity to metrics theater. I’m suspicious of hype, committed to candor, and more interested in building quiet retreat.

For a long time I relied upon others for a sense of belonging and inclusion. All of the events I attended involved alcohol somehow. I was a heavy drinker. I didn’t have a self-care routine or many healthy coping skills. I second guessed myself. But then I decided I wanted a better life. I was tired of waking up with hangovers and telling myself, “I can’t keep doing this”. I felt awful about all of the weight I gained. I decided to commit to change. I changed the places I went, the activities I attended, and the friends I socialized with. I now have a deep mind-body connection, trust my inner knowing, and don’t use substances to seek pleasure or avoid pain. And I can help you do it, too.

When I was a nurse for 33 years, I became a workaholic. I thought the hospital could not function without me. I often took my work home, calling back to the hospital, checking on patients. My family, life and family suffered because of that I paid more attention to my work than my family, which eventually resulted in a divorce and custody battle. I can help you know what’s important in your life.