I spent over 35 years using porn and, for most of my life, I couldn’t stop. It was something I hid, justified, and returned to whenever I felt overwhelmed, disconnected, or alone. I didn’t realize how much it shaped my self-esteem, my intimacy, and the kind of partners I chose—including partners who also struggled with porn addiction. For years, I felt trapped in a cycle I couldn’t break. What finally changed was learning how my nervous system worked, healing the emotional wounds I kept soothing with distraction, and rebuilding real connection with myself. I stopped through daily regulation, accountability, and replacing the coping pattern—not through shame, fear, or willpower. Now I help others find that same freedom, clarity, and self-respect without judgment or pressure.