I was in an abusive marriage. I was verbally abused daily. My husband was in charge of the money. There was a period of time that he would not buy food for the house. He would always say that we didn’t have any money for food. Later I found out that he had loaned someone $800 during that time.There were a couple of times that he became physically abusive. I got to where I would always have a bag packed. He alienated me from my family and friends. There were a couple times that I thought suicide was the only way out. As a way to stay in control, he would call the police to the house when I was frustrated with how he treated me and showed favoritism towards his kids. His kids are in school. I always found it odd that he would always want to sleep with them, especially after learning of his childhood abuse. He had everyone around us fooled, keeping a perfect image in front of all of his friends. I want to be a help to abuse and trauma survivors.

I started by noticing the patterns I kept repeating. I was familiar with miscommunication, over-giving, unspoken expectations, and fake forgiveness. I called it love, loyalty, or patience, but underneath it was fear—fear of asking for more from others and myself. Breaking toxic patterns meant evaluating how I participate. I learned how to communicate directly and clearly. I learned that trust is built through consistency, boundaries, and follow-through. I learned that forgiveness must have accountability and behavior modification, first off beginning with myself. I became clear about my needs. Clear about my limits. Clear about what I would and would not participate in. These foundations apply to every relationship-Romantic, friendship, and family. I help others not to fix relationships at any cost, but to create healthier ones or walk away with integrity when that isn’t possible. Breaking patterns is about choices, awareness, and learning how to relate without losing yourself.

For most of my life, it felt like I was trying to fit into a role I was never meant for. I was always the "black sheep" in my family or the "weird" one, which left me feeling disconnected and unsure of myself. That path led me through some really tough times with depression, not knowing where I'd live, and the quiet pain of friendships just fading away. Through all of it, I fought with that constant feeling of being an imposter, like nothing I did was ever truly good enough. A crisis that left me homeless for a second time forced me to start completely over, but it actually turned out to be a blessing in disguise. In that quiet space of rebuilding, I finally learned how to set real boundaries, manage my own emotional stress, and find my way back to creating music. I also realized that helping other people feel seen is one of the most powerful ways to heal. So now, I'm here to offer a listening ear and a steady presence for anyone navigating their own tough challenges.

For a long time, I prioritized others before myself. I thought this was my love language, but I didn't realize I was actually neglecting myself and performing for others. With this mindset, I accepted abusive relationships and often engaged in people-pleasing, which drained me for years. After my father's unexpected passing, I started going to therapy and began to see life from a different perspective. It felt as though a part of me had died along with him, which opened my eyes to the fact that I needed healing. Now, I stand here with healthy boundaries, understanding that it's okay to choose myself first and then care for others. My relationship with God has grown closer, and I finally feel like I'm walking in my purpose. While I continue to help people, I do so in a healthier way with established boundaries. My children are my pride and joy, and I'm teaching them about healthy boundaries by being a living example.

I left a toxic relationship while carrying the weight of grief and motherhood. It wasn’t simple leaving rarely is especially when you still feel responsible for the other person’s pain. I know the confusion, the emotional exhaustion, and the rebuilding that follows. I offer a safe place to untangle your feelings and reclaim your voice.

It is hard being the child of an alcoholic father. It's difficult carrying the shame, guilt, resentment, anger, and many more emotions along with learning how to adapt and thrive and cope with having no contact and my father not being in my life. I've learned that I have been better off without him and his toxicity, and I have learned to stand on my own two feet and to be proud of myself for all of my accomplishments. Most importantly, I'm proud of myself for not following in his ways. I've learned to accept myself in my own eyes, instead of seeking validation and acceptance in other ways that weren't healthy.

I have always been someone that struggles with creating boundaries and understanding and holding true to boundaries, in order to protect my peace of mind and mental health and have always struggled to prioritize what is important, and to help me not to be stressed out once i make my decisions and learning how to create daily, weekly, and monthly priorities and obligations that must be done, versus things i would like to do or have time to do. Ive had to set up accountability reminders and journal entries in order to hold myself accountable, as well as have other people to hold me accountable to myself.

I've been practicing Ethical Non Monogomy ( ENM), also known as Polyamory for almost 10 years now. It is not easy navigating complex relationship dynamics which include practicing honesty, exploring jealousy, transparency, and conscious consent and consideration of others all the while maintaining a healthy well being for your own wants needs and life values. It is a lot of unlearning and deconstructing of non-conscious conditioning we are seemingly by default introduced to at no choice of our own. To pave your own path with such intentionality in your connections- exploring relationships like DNA; honoring that no two connections are the same and there is no "One size fits all" or "Only one to suit the position" is a road that is okay to not be for everyone, all the time, and is worthy of being able to explore safely among open minded community that cares to hold non judgmental space and invite opportunities to explore understanding oneself more lovingly and curiously along the way.

Relationships can be messy. I know this not just from training, but from my own life. I’ve navigated the ups and downs of dating with my own attachment wounds, struggled through communication breakdowns, and had to learn how to honor my needs while respecting someone else’s. That’s why I understand how heavy it can feel when your heart wants one thing, but your mind is full of questions and doubts. In this session, I’ll hold space for you the way I’ve needed others to hold space for me: with no judgment, just validation, compassion, and clarity. Whether you’re dealing with relationship anxiety, mismatched attachment styles, or feeling unseen in your connection, you don’t have to carry it alone. We’ll slow down, name what’s really going on, and help you leave with more peace and perspective.

I grew up as a stepchild in a home where love felt scarce. My stepmother’s neglect left me with deep wounds—low self-worth, anxiety, and the belief that my value came from pleasing others. At 17, I moved out on my own, learning resilience but also carrying constant fear of making the wrong move. Later, as a single mother, I felt even more pressure to get life right while silently battling the patterns I didn’t know how to break. For 17 years, I pursued self-development, went back to school, and committed to deep inner healing. Today, I’ve transformed my past into power. My daughter lives a life filled with love and safety I once only dreamed of, and I’ve learned to create freedom from the inside out. Now I help women do the same—healing old wounds, reclaiming their worth, and stepping into lives filled with joy, possibility, and self-trust.

Ever had conversations that should have been simple—expressing feelings, setting boundaries, navigating friendships—but felt like puzzles with missing pieces? Yeah, always been that way with me. Sometimes I felt like too much, sometimes too little, and almost always like I was being misunderstood. I’ve spent years untangling that sense of disconnection—communicating in a way that feels true to me while still bridging the gap with others. Through my work in peer support, I’ve helped people recognize their own emotional language, whether it’s through words, actions, or quiet understanding. You don’t have to force yourself into someone else’s mold to be heard. If you’ve ever struggled to express your feelings or felt like you just don’t "fit" emotionally, I get it. Let’s explore how you naturally communicate and find ways to connect with the people who truly understand you.

I’ve faced some heavy mental loads and for years felt like I was trying to connect with people while speaking a different emotional language. It made relationships hard—romantic ones, friendships, even basic conversations at work. I’d either shut down or go all in too fast, and that constant push-pull left me feeling isolated and misunderstood. But over time, and with support, I started to explore my needs and patterns. No two people relate the same way, and there’s no single right way to “do” relationships. Through my work as a Peer Support Specialist, I’ve helped people figure out what healthy connection looks like for them—whether that means setting better boundaries, healing from past hurt, or just figuring out how to express themselves without fear. I believe connection starts with self-understanding, and I love helping people get there. You don’t have to fit a mold to have meaningful relationships. You just need someone who gets it and walks alongside you as you figure it out.

I spent years feeling like I was trying to translate my thoughts and emotions into a language that wasn’t mine. Conversations that seemed effortless for others—small talk, advocating for myself, expressing feelings without fear—felt exhausting. Being neurodivergent meant my brain processed interactions differently, and it wasn’t always easy for people to understand that. Over time, I learned that effective communication isn’t about forcing yourself to conform—it’s about discovering how you communicate best and finding strategies that help others meet you where you are. Whether it’s navigating relationships, workplace dynamics, or even daily interactions, having tools that honor your needs can make a huge difference. Through peer support, I’ve helped people uncover their communication strengths, manage overwhelm in social situations, and build confidence in expressing themselves authentically. You don’t have to mask or shrink yourself to be heard. Let’s explore what works for you.

In my life I have had to create boundaries to protect myself from being hurt. This created loniliness in my life. In the end it was the best choice to set boundaries for my own good and helped me to forgive those that had hurt me through things said or done. Now I want to help others learn to set boundaries to protect themselves from the hurt of others and to forgive.

Being married for 11 years, my husband and I have found that communication, forgiveness, and gratitude are most important to making our relationship work. It has taken a lot of work, but we keep trying. Through the struggles, it strengthens our relationship from the loss of family members to conflicts with family to different opinions. Marriage is hard at times, but we just keep trying to improve our relationship each day.

Sometimes I just have a bad day. A day that I feel like I woke up on the wrong side of the bed, and nothing seems to go right. Some days it may just be little things that add up to make me feel stressed or a conflict with others. I've learned it's okay to have a bad day as long as I can learn from the bad day and reset to have a better day tomorrow.

Growing up around addiction, poverty, and instability, I learned early on to cope by escaping my emotions however I could. As a teen and young adult, I turned to drugs and alcohol to numb myself, never thinking about the consequences. Even after surviving a house raid, an arrest, and a stay in a mental hospital, it took me years to confront the hold substances had on my life. Meanwhile, I found myself trapped in abusive relationships that mirrored the dysfunction I had grown up with. Through therapy, support groups, and a lot of inner child work, I slowly started to build a life based on self-respect rather than survival. I am now over two years sober from alcohol and several years free from drug use, continuing my healing journey with a focus on compassion and patience. I know how overwhelming it can be to untangle addiction from relationship trauma, and I want to be a steady, understanding presence for anyone facing that path today.

I grew up seeing how life and relationships can go wrong. I have always been interested in relationships and identifying the patterns that make relationships dysfunctional. At six years old, I was being a therapist to everybody around me. I discovered I am an INFJ through taking the Myers Briggs test and it all made sense why I was into therapy, psychology and family/relationship dynamics. This lead me to wanting to becoming a marriage and family therapist. I am currently getting a masters in marriage and family therapy as we speak. I have lived through many traumatic experiences and I became resilient as a result. I also became a better listener and developed more empathy and understanding.

It has taken me a long time to figure out what I truly want in a romantic relationship and partnership. Honestly, it's still a vision I am constantly refining due to years of conditioning that taught me to self-sacrifice everything, including my identity. Growing up, I was never given the space to feel like I could claim freedom, honest self-expression and choice in my life and especially not in my dating life. From one dating lesson to the next, I’ve learned a lot about the modern dating landscape. Even with the endless array of choices, it is still difficult for women to carve out a vision for their relationships that is rooted in authenticity and true self-knowledge. If you also value creating a relationship where you feel truly empowered to be you, I’m offering this space to figure out the details of that vision together. Let's talk through the challenges of how to get everything you want while navigating this unprecedented modern dating landscape.

I stayed too long. Not just in one relationship, but in a few. I told myself things would get better, that I could fix it, that I was the problem. After a 17-year marriage ended in infidelity, I felt completely lost and unlovable. I drank to cope, remarried, and kept drinking. Then came a narcissist who used, lied, manipulated, and eventually tried to kill me. By the time I realized I had to leave, I was trauma bonded, emotionally exhausted, and terrified. But I did leave. I found a domestic violence shelter, got sober in rehab, and slowly began piecing myself back together. I know how hard it is to leave, especially when your sense of self is tangled up in trying to make it work. But I also know this: you don’t have to wait until you’ve lost everything to walk away. If you’re wondering whether it’s time to go, let’s talk. I’ve been there.