In my life I have had to create boundaries to protect myself from being hurt. This created loniliness in my life. In the end it was the best choice to set boundaries for my own good and helped me to forgive those that had hurt me through things said or done. Now I want to help others learn to set boundaries to protect themselves from the hurt of others and to forgive.

Being married for 11 years, my husband and I have found that communication, forgiveness, and gratitude are most important to making our relationship work. It has taken a lot of work, but we keep trying. Through the struggles, it strengthens our relationship from the loss of family members to conflicts with family to different opinions. Marriage is hard at times, but we just keep trying to improve our relationship each day.

Sometimes I just have a bad day. A day that I feel like I woke up on the wrong side of the bed, and nothing seems to go right. Some days it may just be little things that add up to make me feel stressed or a conflict with others. I've learned it's okay to have a bad day as long as I can learn from the bad day and reset to have a better day tomorrow.

I started by noticing the patterns I kept repeating. I was familiar with miscommunication, over-giving, unspoken expectations, and fake forgiveness. I called it love, loyalty, or patience, but underneath it was fear—fear of asking for more from others and myself. Breaking toxic patterns meant evaluating how I participate. I learned how to communicate directly and clearly. I learned that trust is built through consistency, boundaries, and follow-through. I learned that forgiveness must have accountability and behavior modification, first off beginning with myself. I became clear about my needs. Clear about my limits. Clear about what I would and would not participate in. These foundations apply to every relationship-Romantic, friendship, and family. I help others not to fix relationships at any cost, but to create healthier ones or walk away with integrity when that isn’t possible. Breaking patterns is about choices, awareness, and learning how to relate without losing yourself.

It is hard being the child of an alcoholic father. It's difficult carrying the shame, guilt, resentment, anger, and many more emotions along with learning how to adapt and thrive and cope with having no contact and my father not being in my life. I've learned that I have been better off without him and his toxicity, and I have learned to stand on my own two feet and to be proud of myself for all of my accomplishments. Most importantly, I'm proud of myself for not following in his ways. I've learned to accept myself in my own eyes, instead of seeking validation and acceptance in other ways that weren't healthy.

I have always been someone that struggles with creating boundaries and understanding and holding true to boundaries, in order to protect my peace of mind and mental health and have always struggled to prioritize what is important, and to help me not to be stressed out once i make my decisions and learning how to create daily, weekly, and monthly priorities and obligations that must be done, versus things i would like to do or have time to do. Ive had to set up accountability reminders and journal entries in order to hold myself accountable, as well as have other people to hold me accountable to myself.

Self-advocacy can be extremely challenging, especially when, like me, you are still a recovering people pleaser. Learning to communicate needs clearly and honestly often requires unlearning the habit of prioritizing others’ comfort over your own. Setting and maintaining boundaries can feel uncomfortable at first, but they are essential for healthy relationships and self-respect. Over time, practicing assertive communication helps build confidence, reinforcing the understanding that your voice, needs, and limits are valid and worthy of being heard.

Relationships can be messy. I know this not just from training, but from my own life. I’ve navigated the ups and downs of dating with my own attachment wounds, struggled through communication breakdowns, and had to learn how to honor my needs while respecting someone else’s. That’s why I understand how heavy it can feel when your heart wants one thing, but your mind is full of questions and doubts. In this session, I’ll hold space for you the way I’ve needed others to hold space for me: with no judgment, just validation, compassion, and clarity. Whether you’re dealing with relationship anxiety, mismatched attachment styles, or feeling unseen in your connection, you don’t have to carry it alone. We’ll slow down, name what’s really going on, and help you leave with more peace and perspective.

It has taken me a long time to figure out what I truly want in a romantic relationship and partnership. Honestly, it's still a vision I am constantly refining due to years of conditioning that taught me to self-sacrifice everything, including my identity. Growing up, I was never given the space to feel like I could claim freedom, honest self-expression and choice in my life and especially not in my dating life. From one dating lesson to the next, I’ve learned a lot about the modern dating landscape. Even with the endless array of choices, it is still difficult for women to carve out a vision for their relationships that is rooted in authenticity and true self-knowledge. If you also value creating a relationship where you feel truly empowered to be you, I’m offering this space to figure out the details of that vision together. Let's talk through the challenges of how to get everything you want while navigating this unprecedented modern dating landscape.

For a long time, I prioritized others before myself. I thought this was my love language, but I didn't realize I was actually neglecting myself and performing for others. With this mindset, I accepted abusive relationships and often engaged in people-pleasing, which drained me for years. After my father's unexpected passing, I started going to therapy and began to see life from a different perspective. It felt as though a part of me had died along with him, which opened my eyes to the fact that I needed healing. Now, I stand here with healthy boundaries, understanding that it's okay to choose myself first and then care for others. My relationship with God has grown closer, and I finally feel like I'm walking in my purpose. While I continue to help people, I do so in a healthier way with established boundaries. My children are my pride and joy, and I'm teaching them about healthy boundaries by being a living example.

I grew up in the Dominican Republic and moved to the U.S. when I was five. My childhood was shaped by the reality of addiction, my cousin was using cocaine and I’d watch him sleep all day and stay up all night. He was kind, but deeply ashamed, and I remember how hard it was to see someone I loved struggle so much. My grandfather also struggled with alcoholism and eventually died from liver failure. Watching two people I cared about suffer like that taught me that addiction isn’t about being bad, it’s about being stuck in something painful. It hurts the person using, and it hurts the people who love them too. I barely drink now because of what I lived through, but I’ve never stopped believing there’s hope for people who use. I’ve shared my story with friends who were drinking heavily, and sometimes it helped them pause and think differently. I’ve been that listener for others who are hurting: someone who doesn’t judge, who gets it, and who knows what it’s like to love someone who can’t seem to stop. If you’re going through that now, I’d be honored to sit with you in it.

I’m a first generation American born on the mainland, embracing a rich multicultural heritage. Life has profoundly shaped me. Losing my mother at a young age led me to embrace motherhood earlier than most. Through navigating significant changes and new beginnings, I’ve grown into a resilient and positive person. Along the way, I have discovered a sene of self-worth.

For most of my life, it felt like I was trying to fit into a role I was never meant for. I was always the "black sheep" in my family or the "weird" one, which left me feeling disconnected and unsure of myself. That path led me through some really tough times with depression, not knowing where I'd live, and the quiet pain of friendships just fading away. Through all of it, I fought with that constant feeling of being an imposter, like nothing I did was ever truly good enough. A crisis that left me homeless for a second time forced me to start completely over, but it actually turned out to be a blessing in disguise. In that quiet space of rebuilding, I finally learned how to set real boundaries, manage my own emotional stress, and find my way back to creating music. I also realized that helping other people feel seen is one of the most powerful ways to heal. So now, I'm here to offer a listening ear and a steady presence for anyone navigating their own tough challenges.

Life has thrown me more than my fair share of obstacles! Illness from childhood. Broken home. GenX childhood- so I basically raised myself AND my younger brother. Teen pregnancy... so married at 17. Abusive home, eventually into a single parent home. Latchkey kid. Yet.... I am still married, yes, to the same man, over 35 years later. We raised 3 kids into adulthood to be independent, and all college educated. I owned my own business and then ran a multi-level beauty company that I grew over 10 fold in 10 years, eventually having to leave due to my declining health, but I was very successful at what I did. I found successes and happiness in spite of a lot life has thrown at me. Resilience, creativity, resourcefulness, and the ability to get up and dust myself off to keep going even when I feel awful... all things I value, but I also value kindness, honesty, caring and friendship even more.

I was married at 17, in part due to an unplanned pregnancy, but that in no way lessens the legitimacy of our commitment. We are still married over 36 years later, with 3 grown, independent, successful, college-educated children. We are extremely committed to our relationship and very comfortable in that commitment. We both maintain a high level of respect, reverence, and admiration for each other in addition to the love and attraction we have shared since our teenage years. We've experienced a great deal of strife, from loss of jobs and income to chronic illness, illness. Even the death of parents and family, along with handling the full range of emotions in raising children. We have moved states away from anyone we knew, successfully reintegrating our kids into a new school system, eventually assisting them into college. I've navigated a relationship through thick and thin, learning to turn into our marriage rather than away to solidify our bond into the tempered steel strength it is today.

The holiday season is often portrayed as a time of joy, togetherness and celebration. Maybe for some, but not for all. Are the media’s unrealistic “shoulds” creeping up on you? The Blues could start with the time change, something many are sensitive to: shorter days, having it get dark earlier can result in lowering mood/energy. There could be a tinge of blues or, for some, a stronger dose of sadness, isolation, grief, financial stress, memories of old family conflicts or unresolved issues, and even a sense of inadequacy. While The Blues affect everyone differently, some common signs are feeling anxious or irritable; changes in sleep or appetite; difficulty concentrating; and, lack of motivation to participate in or withdrawing from holiday social interactions (or even thinking about them!). As others start to make plans, I shut down. I’m remembering the “fun people” are no longer with me, I’m aware the usual “trimmings” make me slightly nauseous today. Sound familiar? Join me!

Resilience, the ability to adapt and bounce back from adversity, is an essential skill in the modern world. Some people appear naturally resilient. If that's not you, the good news is you can cultivate resilience through conscious effort and intentional practices. Building resilience enables you to navigate setbacks, grow from challenges, and maintain a sense of purpose in the face of uncertainty. Growing resilience requires self-awareness, self-regulation, optimism, self-compassion and a growth mind-set to name a few. I have gone through the twists and turns that life presents: family disintegration, child-estrangement, physical challenges , job and career loss. Though it was rocky, I survived and ultimately thrived. Certain practices strengthen your ability to cope with stress and to recover from setbacks. They foster growth and adaptation. Let’s navigate your current setback(s) together. Let me be your co-pilot in discovering skills you don't yet know you have.

I cared for Dad for 7 years, first in my home, then in his, each posing unique challenges. He was deferential in mine, but very controlling in his. I was building a professional practice, he was dealing with consequences of bladder cancer surgery. We had complicated feelings about each other: he praised my dedication to him, and feared I'd harm him with his medications; I resented leaving my home, being the caregiving sibling. I acted horribly at times (I locked him out of my RV which he dearly wanted to work on) and he reciprocated (making my friends feel unwelcome in his home). He'd call me by my mother's name. (Parental conflict was the norm growing up.) I came to have great compassion for her. We had moments of great generosity and we even had fun together, too. It brought out the worst and the best in us. But it never occurred to us to seek help, a trusted outsider to help provide perspective and verbalize frustrations. If this sounds familiar, let's work on it together.

I’ve lived a full life—with all the ups, downs, sharp turns, and potholes that come with it. I'm a mother of two sons of retirement age: the younger, I'm total estranged from, and it's the same as losing a child; the elder, a practicing alcoholic, is tricky. As a former marriage and family therapist, a caregiver for my dad during his final years, and someone who has fought my own battles with addiction and recovery, I deeply understand being in hard places. My struggles were relationship acceptance and guilt and shame. I was an inadequate parent and it brought great pain to us all. But I finally sought help. I no longer accept the unrealistic perfect mother model. Once I understood my boundaries, our relationship improved. I stopped listening to abusive complaints. Now we can tell when things are "going south" and we can gracefully withdraw from conflict. Acceptance and boundaries are game changers. They can be for you, too. Let me support and help guide you in this process.

I have two adult children, both approaching retirement age, who still blame and resent me as a mother. For years, I felt sad and envious of my friends’ child relations. I thought if I just said it this way or didn't do that that we'd progress. While I understand they could feel betrayed using the perfect mother model, I no longer accept the perfect mother standard. I now understand that past mistakes don't define me today. I was being unrealistic in the present. And once I "got it" things improved, and I felt better. The first big step was to stop listening to abusive complaints and accusations. Today I use a soft voice to say enough now I’m hanging up. Then I do. Once I got clear on my boundaries, their behavior improved (and so did mine!). It's been a long journey with periodic missteps. With help I have more tools to work with. I'm not as angry. I have hope and even some satisfaction. If you are ready to get off that toxic treadmill, join me. Let's find your boundaries.