When my spouse died by suicide, my entire world shattered. The grief wasn't just sadness, it was a complete dismantling of who I was. I became a single parent overnight while drowning in my own pain. I felt so alone. People didn't know what to say, so they said nothing. Or worse, they said things that hurt. I was navigating finances, legal matters, and my children's wellbeing while barely holding myself together. The guilt, the anger, the confusion—it felt too heavy. Now, several years into this journey, I've learned to carry my grief alongside my life. I've found meaning in supporting others walking this devastating path. I know the loneliness of a grief others don't understand. I offer a compassionate, judgment-free space where you can be honest about all of it—the anger, guilt, relief, love, confusion. I won't rush your grief or tell you how you "should" feel. I'll just be here, reminding you that you're not alone and that healing is possible.

I came out to a very religious family and was alienated when I chose to live my life on my terms. After being apart for six years, I was welcomed back into the family, and they embraced my lifestyle and me. Love truly does conquer all.

Life has taken me through many chapters: raising three young men (two of whom are neurodivergent), navigating a 20-year career as a special education teacher, surviving toxic, narcissistic relationships, and rebuilding after divorce. Along the way, I learned the importance of setting boundaries, choosing self-love, and letting go of habits that no longer served me—including a complicated relationship with alcohol. The journey hasn’t been easy, but it’s made me passionate about helping others find their voice, their peace, and their power again. Today, I live a nomadic life focused on healing, authenticity, and supporting others through their toughest seasons. I'm here to meet you exactly where you are—and to remind you that your healing is possible.

Hi, I’m Lola—a Life Coach, mom of three, and survivor of unhealthy relationships. I rebuilt my life through boundaries, self-love, and now I hold a safe, non-judgmental space for others ready to heal, reclaim their voice, and find peace.

Being an adult child of divorce, i fully understand what divorce does not to the family, but to the children involved. I know what it is like to experience parental alienation in the eyes of children, and i know what it feels like to feel torn between households once the divorce is completed.

Relationships are powerful containers for growth and self-discovery, and I’ve spent my life studying them. After a marriage ended due to my partner’s infidelity, I embarked on a path of self-discovery, healing, and reflection. Now as a massage therapist, my clients often share deeply about their personal relationships, and I realized how much I loved simply listening and holding space for them. This inspired me to create a unique style of couples sessions focused on connection, presence, and understanding each other. Over time, I began offering listening hours, supporting people in processing their feelings, exploring their perspectives, and reflecting on what they truly want in their relationships. My current partner and I practice an intentional form of non-monogamy that prioritizes both of our individual needs and growth. We honor monogamous values as well as polyamorous perspectives, learning to navigate jealousy, quality time, and communication with curiosity and respect.

I had gotten myself into a relationship with a person who was sober, on house, arrest, and was going through the cycle of wanting to be better. And one snowy night I had found them passed out unknown what happened until they took my partner to the hospital, and I had found the bottle of vodka hiding from that relationship. I was the soul caretaker of someone who is suffering from. SUD. The relationship lasted 2 1/2 years and it was very codependent from me making sure that they were OK and for them having me as the caretaker there was abuse in the relationship from someone who did not want to get help I was able to leave that relationship completely heartbroken and tornand took time to grieve my own expectations from this person. I removed myself from my environment and started my healing journey while they got into another relationship while we were still together technically, I found myself now better because I was able to have the support from my friends to leave.

I've navigated a break-up with an emotionally avoidant partner and can empathize how painful such transitions can be. I used the experience to challenge how I love others, and myself, and to do so more deeply, which sometimes means letting go.

My finalized divorce after 7 1/2 years of marriage felt like I slapped myself in the face with a brick. Not only were the typical financial and physical changes jarring, the emotional severance from the one I had deemed "my best friend forever," felt so immense. I was deeply lost, ashamed, and humiliated. Although I tried to "live well as the best revenge," I did not handle it well. I also did not have family or friends to turn to for help. Time ultimately helped and with the perspective of 27 years since then, I can still relate to anyone who is experiencing similar internal conflict. Divorce may be necessary, it may be "for the best," but it may also hurt like hell and feel extremely isolating. Sometimes all I needed was for someone to listen back then, and at a minimum, that's what I'll always be able to offer someone else.

I used to find myself in relationships where I would constantly prioritize others’ needs over my own, always trying to make sure everyone around me was happy, even at the cost of my own well-being. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was caught in a cycle of codependency and people-pleasing. It wasn’t until I started recognizing the unhealthy patterns in my relationships that I began to see how much they were holding me back. This realization came slowly. I started working on myself, breaking free from toxic environments and relationships, and focusing on the life I wanted to build. I found that understanding my own attachment style and learning about healthy boundaries helped me stop falling into those old patterns. I became aware of what was destructive—both in my romantic and platonic relationships—and made healthier choices for myself and those around me. I’ve experienced these challenges firsthand and, through a lot of hard work and self-discovery, I’ve learned how to create and maintain stronger, healthier relationships. I’m now in a place where I don’t rely on unhealthy attachments or behaviors to define my relationships. I can see myself and others more clearly, and I want to help anyone who is struggling with the same issues.

I am dedicated to helping couples and families strengthen their relationships, drawing on her experience as a military spouse. She guides partners in building trust, improving communication, navigating separation, evolving marriages, and transitioning through divorce. Her mission is to create resilient, connected relationships where love, understanding, and growth thrive—even through life’s toughest challenges

I didn’t know what codependency was. I just believed taking care of others was who I had to be. As a child, keeping the peace and putting others first felt like my job. It was how I survived, so I never questioned it. I carried that into all my relationships, including my marriage, often with people who weren’t healthy for me. I kept giving and shrinking myself, thinking that’s what love meant. But not everyone expected that from me. Some allowed me to be my true self, the healthier version of me. My marriage showed me how much I was losing myself, but those healthier relationships reminded me who I really was. I realized I didn’t have to live in survival mode or keep attracting toxic and abusive relationships. I chose to rewrite my story for me and my children. The breaking point became my turning point. I started finding my voice and setting boundaries. I’m learning to support others without feeling like I have to fix them.

For the ones who feel like they’re walking on eggshells, carrying the weight of someone else’s struggles, and losing themselves in the process. Maybe your partner battles substance abuse, untreated mental health issues, or toxic behaviors that keep you questioning your worth. Maybe you’ve convinced yourself this is the only person who will ever want you, or you’ve stayed because leaving feels impossible—whether for emotional, financial, or safety reasons. Or maybe you’ve already left and the silence feels heavier than the chaos you walked away from. You miss what was good, doubt yourself for leaving, or wonder if you’ll ever feel whole enough for love again. If you’re stuck between fear, grief, and hope for something better, let’s talk. I’ve been in that kind of relationship too—staying longer than I should, leaving, and rebuilding. And I can remind you what I had to learn myself: walking away may feel harder, but it’s always the first step toward peace.

When I became a mom, I thought my job was just to make sure my kids had what they needed, food, clothes, school, activities. What I didn’t realize was how much of me they were watching in the in-between moments. They weren’t just watching me parent. They were watching how I handled stress, how I talked to myself, how I let people treat me, and whether I believed in my own worth. The truth? For a long time, I didn’t. I struggled with self-esteem, questioned myself at every turn, and carried imposter syndrome into almost every room I walked into. I told myself I had to be “strong” and hide the rest. But kids don’t just learn from what we say, they learn from how we live. And it hit me that the best way to raise emotionally healthy, confident kids was to actually start doing that work for myself. To be vulnerable. To let them see me heal. To live intentionally, instead of on autopilot. That’s what this offer is about. Helping you show up for your kids and yourself

For years, I confused avoidance with independence. I thought shutting down, not needing anyone, and pushing people away meant I was strong but it wasn't until years of therapy and some self-awareness I realized I was just afraid. I was afraid of being abandoned, and truly afraid of being seen. After healing my avoidance, I soon found myself becoming anxious in dating and picking avoidant partners. Dating avoidant partners felt safe because they never required vulnerability, but it also kept me stuck in surface-level relationships. Through therapy, journaling, and a lot of self-work, I faced my fears and learned that true strength is letting yourself be loved. I can confidently say that I have kicked the avoidant & anxious attachment styles. If you're one of these (scared to get close to others, or always afraid or anxious that those close to you are going to eventually pull away), or just need some insight on the two. Let's chat!

Relationships can be messy. I know this not just from training, but from my own life. I’ve navigated the ups and downs of dating with my own attachment wounds, struggled through communication breakdowns, and had to learn how to honor my needs while respecting someone else’s. That’s why I understand how heavy it can feel when your heart wants one thing, but your mind is full of questions and doubts. In this session, I’ll hold space for you the way I’ve needed others to hold space for me: with no judgment, just validation, compassion, and clarity. Whether you’re dealing with relationship anxiety, mismatched attachment styles, or feeling unseen in your connection, you don’t have to carry it alone. We’ll slow down, name what’s really going on, and help you leave with more peace and perspective.

Because I get it. I’ve been through the dark nights of fear, doubt, illness, and overwhelm. I know how it feels to hit rock bottom-and how powerful it is to rise.. I’m someone who has walked through the fire and come out stronger. After facing a life-threatening health scare, rebuilding my life, healing relationships, overcoming anxiety, and making powerful changes in my health and habits, I’ve learned what it takes to create lasting transformation from the inside out.

In 2004 I found myself single and relearning the new dating rules after a breakup. At that time I realized I spent 19yrs of my life with the wrong men. After working on myself & holding myself accountable for my poor decisions and choice of men. I created a podcast to bridge the communication gap between men and women. Over time with social media, that gap has widened exponentially. Too many women (especially in my friend group) have given up on dating. However, I am willing to offer tips on effective communication in dating, the rules around dating, standing firm on your principles, and how to be stronger than your loneliness.

After losing the love of my life, I realized this grief was different from previous losses. It felt like my life was a beautiful vase shattered into a hundred pieces. I tried to pick them up and put them back together, but I couldn’t do it alone. Some pieces were too far away, others didn’t fit, and I was frustrated and in despair. That’s when I accepted the love and help offered by those around me. Others could reach pieces I could not and helped me fit them back together. Together, we created a new vase—different but functional and ready to be used again. I learned not to be too proud to accept help because I wouldn’t have gotten up without it. Wisdom, I found, is simply knowledge gained through life’s hardest experiences. Prior to the death of my Wife, I had experienced the loss of my parents and other close family members. But they were no more than a punch in the gut. You fall down, sit for a bit, get up and go again. My Wifes loss was completely different. It was as if my life was a beautiful vase that had fallen to the floor and shattered into a hundred pieces. I had to sit down and try gathering the pieces and try putting them back together again. Needless to say, I could not seem to do it by myself. Some pieces were too far away. I could not figure out how to make other pieces fit together. i was frustrated and in despair but that is when i realized how much love and help i had around me and I accepted this gift. Some people could reach the pieces that i could not reach and brought them back to me. Others had the ability to fit pieces back together that i could not do. By drawing on our strengths together we were able to create a new vase which is functional and ready for use again. Do not ever be too proud to accept the help that good people want to shelter you with. I would have not been able to get off the floor again if it wasn't for the help and love given to me by others. Wisdom is nothing more than knowledge gained through life's experiences.

I spent 17 years in a marriage that was far from easy. My (ex) husband struggled with mental health challenges, and although we tried counseling and made efforts to hold it together, infidelity and emotional distance slowly broke us apart. Through all of it, I had to stay steady for my two children. Some days were just about surviving the emotions, mine and theirs. But over time, I began to rediscover myself, figure out what I truly want in a relationship, and create a new version of happiness for my family. Now, I’ve found love again, and more importantly, I’ve found peace within myself. In the last couple of years, I was diagnosed with a chronic illness. I have found that peer support has helped me tremendously and want to be there for others as well. I am currently training in peer support / active mental health recovery. I am a certified Disaster Recovery Certified Counselor and certified in crisis intervention.