For years, I confused avoidance with independence. I thought shutting down, not needing anyone, and pushing people away meant I was strong but it wasn't until years of therapy and some self-awareness I realized I was just afraid. I was afraid of being abandoned, and truly afraid of being seen. After healing my avoidance, I soon found myself becoming anxious in dating and picking avoidant partners. Dating avoidant partners felt safe because they never required vulnerability, but it also kept me stuck in surface-level relationships. Through therapy, journaling, and a lot of self-work, I faced my fears and learned that true strength is letting yourself be loved. I can confidently say that I have kicked the avoidant & anxious attachment styles. If you're one of these (scared to get close to others, or always afraid or anxious that those close to you are going to eventually pull away), or just need some insight on the two. Let's chat!