My ex and I have practiced all forms of ethical nonmonogamy (ENM) since 1992. At the time, I didn't know there was a term for this relationship style. A close friend introduced us to the idea after witnessing how much we wanted to see other people without compromising our own relationship. As my ex and I discussed and navigated how we would make it happen for us, mono-normative thoughts and behavior haunted us, especially around thoughts about cheating. Over time, we let go of what ENM meant to us. After years of hits and misses, along with the realization that my values within an ENM dynamic didn't align with my ex's, I've learned a lot about finding and maintaining what's right for me, and having partners and friends who are respectful of it, as I am respectful of them and how they practice.

A client once told me, “My picker is broken.” She kept dating the same man with a different name—and each time, it ended in heartache. The truth is, I understood exactly how she felt. I wasn’t dating the same guy over and over, but I wasn’t meeting anyone aligned with who I am and what I truly want. I realized I had to redefine what dating meant for me. I stopped dating to find a partner and started going on dates just to have conversations from a place of clarity, not confusion. After working with a dating and relationship coach, I got crystal clear on my values, needs, boundaries, and life purpose. I reconnected with who I am and from that place, dating became something I actually enjoy. Now I help other women do the same: get grounded, get honest, and stop settling. I believe dating doesn’t have to be a cycle of disappointment. It can be a tool for growth, clarity, and connection with others, and with yourself.

I’ve survived narcissistic abuse in relationships, in family, and, perhaps most disturbingly, from people in positions of trust and power, like pastors and clergy. The gaslighting, the emotional neglect, the spiritual manipulation; it leaves a deep wound. But it doesn’t get the final say. I did the work. I chose myself. I learned how to spot the red flags, honor my intuition, and rebuild from the inside out. Now I help others do the same. If you're in that foggy space between surviving and healing, I want to walk with you. Healing doesn’t mean pretending it didn’t happen. It means telling the truth, reclaiming your power, and choosing peace over chaos every single time.

Once upon a time, I was in a relationship heading toward marriage. We signed up for a premarital class that started off great, until it didn’t. One day, he simply stopped coming. No warning. No communication. No explanation. I was left to finish the class alone. It was painful, but also eye-opening. That experience taught me two powerful lessons: first, that a partner’s consistency speaks louder than their promises, and second, that I didn’t have to dishonor myself by taking someone back who had already shown me they weren’t ready to walk with me. When he reappeared and asked to come back, I said no. And that “no” became a defining moment of self-respect. What I gained from that class and from walking away is the insight to help others discern red flags, ask the right questions, and make decisions that honor both their faith and their future. Because marriage prep isn’t just about planning a wedding. It’s about preparing for a covenant.

I didn’t really realize that I had anger issues until I got married and had kids. Then I discovered that when my husband and I had arguments, I couldn’t let things go and would feel so wounded by him wanting to retreat from an argument that I would explode. This looked like being verbally abusive, and even throwing things or hitting him. I would feel so ashamed afterwards and apologize profusely. I desperately wanted to change. I eventually went to see a counselor and talked through different ways to communicate with my husband, and because I valued the relationship so deeply I managed to stop exploding with him. Unfortunately, this meant that a lot of anger was then directed at my kids. After years of struggling to manage my anger, I finally realized the need for a deep healing journey, to uncover the unconscious roots that were underneath the explosive rage. In the process I became very good at identifying my feelings underneath the anger, since anger is a secondary emotion. Knowing what those underlying feelings are has been very helpful for me, along with what my triggers are. I have also discovered some healthy ways to vent anger that don’t hurt other people that I could share with you. Today I still experience anger sometimes, everyone does, but it no longer controls my life and I don’t see it as an awful thing that I have to avoid or hold in until I just can’t anymore. Instead, it can be an indication of where I still need some healing, or a healthy emotion that I feel when someone hurts me that I can release or confidently express without doing damage.

I spent my younger life wondering why it felt I was missing a key piece of myself and unable to fit in with people around me. Turned out, in my case, this was partly due to a void in my life of not having a father. For some people that doesn't seem to matter, but for me, it was a key piece of how I interacted with others. As I began to discover myself through therapy, I learned I could easily feel perspectives of other people's circumstances. You know the phrase "Put yourself in my shoes?" Well, I feel that I literally can. In fact, my friends were often discussing their problems with me. They said I listened well and asked questions that helped them see their situation from new angles. My own life experiences are varied enough now to offer a wide span of perspectives. From growing up without a father to marrying someone who didn't speak English to restarting my career several times, I'm a well-rounded, emotionally intelligent, active listening, empathetic soul. Communication is key.

I’ve faced some heavy mental loads and for years felt like I was trying to connect with people while speaking a different emotional language. It made relationships hard—romantic ones, friendships, even basic conversations at work. I’d either shut down or go all in too fast, and that constant push-pull left me feeling isolated and misunderstood. But over time, and with support, I started to explore my needs and patterns. No two people relate the same way, and there’s no single right way to “do” relationships. Through my work as a Peer Support Specialist, I’ve helped people figure out what healthy connection looks like for them—whether that means setting better boundaries, healing from past hurt, or just figuring out how to express themselves without fear. I believe connection starts with self-understanding, and I love helping people get there. You don’t have to fit a mold to have meaningful relationships. You just need someone who gets it and walks alongside you as you figure it out.

Ever had conversations that should have been simple—expressing feelings, setting boundaries, navigating friendships—but felt like puzzles with missing pieces? Yeah, always been that way with me. Sometimes I felt like too much, sometimes too little, and almost always like I was being misunderstood. I’ve spent years untangling that sense of disconnection—communicating in a way that feels true to me while still bridging the gap with others. Through my work in peer support, I’ve helped people recognize their own emotional language, whether it’s through words, actions, or quiet understanding. You don’t have to force yourself into someone else’s mold to be heard. If you’ve ever struggled to express your feelings or felt like you just don’t "fit" emotionally, I get it. Let’s explore how you naturally communicate and find ways to connect with the people who truly understand you.

I spent years feeling like I was trying to translate my thoughts and emotions into a language that wasn’t mine. Conversations that seemed effortless for others—small talk, advocating for myself, expressing feelings without fear—felt exhausting. Being neurodivergent meant my brain processed interactions differently, and it wasn’t always easy for people to understand that. Over time, I learned that effective communication isn’t about forcing yourself to conform—it’s about discovering how you communicate best and finding strategies that help others meet you where you are. Whether it’s navigating relationships, workplace dynamics, or even daily interactions, having tools that honor your needs can make a huge difference. Through peer support, I’ve helped people uncover their communication strengths, manage overwhelm in social situations, and build confidence in expressing themselves authentically. You don’t have to mask or shrink yourself to be heard. Let’s explore what works for you.

I used to say "yes" when I really wanted to say "no " just to keep the peace. But all it did was leave me exhausted and resentful. I realized later on that people weren’t trying to hurt me, they just didn’t know where my limits were, because I didn’t speak up. That’s when I learned that boundaries aren’t about pushing people away, they’re about protecting yourself. When you set clear boundaries, without guilt or apology, you show others how to treat you with the same respect you give yourself. Soo...let’s talk about how to do that in a way that actually works. Everyone has their own boundaries, its just time that we gain clarity on what they are, why they are important, and what they mean to us.

I know what it’s like to want connection but feel like the usual relationship “rules” just don’t work for your brain or your life. I’ve navigated everything from open relationships to heartbreak, queerness to complicated family dynamics, and the constant push-pull between wanting to belong and wanting to be real. If you’re neurodivergent, autistic, ADHD, whatever flavor, you’re probably used to masking, managing other people’s expectations, and feeling like relationships just…aren’t built for how your brain works. You deserve relationships that fit you, not ones that fit everyone else’s mold. Let’s talk honestly about what actually works, what doesn’t, and how to build connections (romantic or not) that are safe, fulfilling, and true to who you are. No shame, no judgment..just real talk and real support. I'm safe, affirming of all types of relationships.

I didn’t know what codependency was. I just believed taking care of others was who I had to be. As a child, keeping the peace and putting others first felt like my job. It was how I survived, so I never questioned it. I carried that into all my relationships, including my marriage, often with people who weren’t healthy for me. I kept giving and shrinking myself, thinking that’s what love meant. But not everyone expected that from me. Some allowed me to be my true self, the healthier version of me. My marriage showed me how much I was losing myself, but those healthier relationships reminded me who I really was. I realized I didn’t have to live in survival mode or keep attracting toxic and abusive relationships. I chose to rewrite my story for me and my children. The breaking point became my turning point. I started finding my voice and setting boundaries. I’m learning to support others without feeling like I have to fix them.

For years, I wore a mask. To the world, I was strong, unbothered, and always smiling, but underneath, I was carrying pain, shame, and loneliness. Pretending to be okay cost me years of my life and so much energy. Taking off the mask felt terrifying. What if people rejected the real me? But slowly, I found freedom in authenticity. Joy doesn’t come from being perfect; instead, it comes from being honest. Once I let my mask down, I discovered a lighter, truer version of myself. Let me help you do the same.

There was a time when my body and mind felt like strangers to me. Living with chronic health conditions stripped me of my mental health so deeply I began to question whether I wanted to continue at all. I was far from home, an immigrant in the U.S., dealing with divorce, financial instability, and a total lack of support. Healing isn't one big moment, but several small, sacred ones: daily meditation practice rooted in Buddhism, quiet journaling sessions, tons of art, and a slow, beautiful reawakening of my inner child. Over time, I realized I didn't need to fight my reality—I needed to learn from it. Now, I help other AFAB queer folks who are curious about spirituality but feel overwhelmed by their pain or mental health. I know what it's like to feel invisible in systems not built for you. And I'm here to help you keep your peace and strength even if you're going through the middle of the storm. Let's get you grounded.

I can be there for you if you’re battling racing thoughts, panic attacks, or the overwhelming weight of anxiety. I have skills in CBT, ACT, and DBT plus have the challenge of Dissociative Disorder and have both panic attacks and anxiety attacks. I'm here. You don't have to suffer in silence.

Relationships can be messy. I know this not just from training, but from my own life. I’ve navigated the ups and downs of dating with my own attachment wounds, struggled through communication breakdowns, and had to learn how to honor my needs while respecting someone else’s. That’s why I understand how heavy it can feel when your heart wants one thing, but your mind is full of questions and doubts. In this session, I’ll hold space for you the way I’ve needed others to hold space for me: with no judgment, just validation, compassion, and clarity. Whether you’re dealing with relationship anxiety, mismatched attachment styles, or feeling unseen in your connection, you don’t have to carry it alone. We’ll slow down, name what’s really going on, and help you leave with more peace and perspective.

Feeling trapped in the same cycles, weighed down by old emotions, or held back by limiting beliefs can be exhausting and frustrating — and that’s where our work together begins. I’m an intuitive, compassionate, and direct coach who goes beneath the surface — tuning into the energy, patterns, and emotions you may not yet have words for. In our online sessions, we’ll create a safe space for you to drop the mask, feel supported, and do the real work of transformation. Using an integrative approach that combines EFT, NLP, Timeline Therapy, Hypnotherapy, Inner Child and Parts Work, CBT, and somatic/trauma integration, I’ll guide you to process emotions, shift subconscious patterns, and reconnect with your inner strength.

There are times when life feels like too much—when everything piles up and you don’t know what the next step should be. I’ve been in those moments myself, when stress, responsibility, or emotions made me feel frozen. What helped me most was having someone who would just listen without judgment, someone who could sit with me while I sorted out my thoughts. That’s what I want to offer here. I may not have all the answers, but I can hold space for you, help you feel less alone, and support you as you find your way back to calm and clarity.

As a highly sensitive and emotionally deep child, I developed an anxious attachment style in a busy household with overwhelmed parents. I craved deep connection, and often felt isolated and on my own. As a teen and adult, I struggled with feeling clingy, overly sensitive, and nervous in friendships and especially romantic relationships. I alternated between pulling people close, and pushing them away when I felt hurt. Eventually, I got to the root of my attachment trauma, and I learned how to caretake that pain. I became capable of managing my emotions and behaviors in relationships, and can now bring my adult wisdom to challenging or hurtful situations.

It can be challenging to manage relationships with siblings as an adult: past conflict, difficulty setting boundaries, and developing an unfamiliar (read: authentic!) identity all contribute to the complex web of family dynamics. As a teenager and young adult, I struggled with maintaining boundaries with my elder siblings, and as I became more authentic, relaxed, and confident, some of those relationships fractured. I have learned to approach things differently, feeling secure and capable in myself through the upheaval of redefining relationships.