My ex and I have practiced all forms of ethical nonmonogamy (ENM) since 1992. At the time, I didn't know there was a term for this relationship style. A close friend introduced us to the idea after witnessing how much we wanted to see other people without compromising our own relationship. As my ex and I discussed and navigated how we would make it happen for us, mono-normative thoughts and behavior haunted us, especially around thoughts about cheating. Over time, we let go of what ENM meant to us. After years of hits and misses, along with the realization that my values within an ENM dynamic didn't align with my ex's, I've learned a lot about finding and maintaining what's right for me, and having partners and friends who are respectful of it, as I am respectful of them and how they practice.

My zany family of 4 has unique challenges that we navigate together with love, compassion and a lot of laughter. I have two daughter’s with their own learning challenges, and identity questions. My husband and I try to guide them from our different life perspectives. We are an inter faith, Inter racial, and mixed orientation couple. We feel that open communication as a family has been our greatest strength. As a family we have moved overseas and enjoy traveling together. If you need a person to help you navigate moving with your family, or strengthening your bonds through adversity, I would love to chat!

I met my husband online 14 years ago. After a wonderful courtship of two years, we got married and have been living in (mostly) marital bliss. In truth, the relationship has been the most amazing, challenging, fun, and honest I’ve ever been. I’ve had to constantly learn (and relearn) how to be in relation with another human who, like me, is always evolving. By bringing my whole, vulnerable self to the relationship, I am always in a position to love fully, listen intensely, and learn to understand the life lessons our partners are there to teach us. Our partners are often mirrors of what we need to learn. Before meeting my husband, I had to navigate the difficulty of dating, understanding my self-worth in the queer sphere, and learning how to deal with rejection. By developing self-care practices and deepening my commitment to understanding what I wanted out of a partner, I was able to treat each dating experience and relationship as a constant lesson on how to be a better me.

I left an abusive relationship in the middle of the night with my two small children, unsure of what the future would hold, and then I never looked back. I moved back in with my parents, carrying fear, shame, and the weight of starting over from scratch. Rebuilding myself meant rediscovering who I was. It got to a point that I was dancing at night to feel alive and then I ended up stepping into a completely new path as a professional matchmaker, where I saw myself in a way I never had before. Dating as a single mom in the lesbian community was full of challenges, teaching me patience, boundaries, and resilience. I also went no-contact with family who violated my trust, and leaned on therapy, spiritual leaders, or any tools to help me heal from years of trauma. Over time, I built a life and a marriage I love, rooted in authenticity and self-respect. Now I want to use my story to guide others, showing that even after abuse, it’s possible to reclaim your life and reinvent yourself.

As a matchmaker, I’ve seen every side of dating, the excitement, the confusion, the fear, and the hope. I work with men, women, and queer and trans clients who are ready to date with more intention. My own experiences have taught me that dating isn’t just about finding someone, it’s about understanding yourself, knowing what you want, and showing up with honesty and confidence. I help people shift from “What’s wrong with me?” to “What’s right for me?” Whether you’re newly single, returning to dating, or just want a healthier approach to love, I’ll meet you where you are and help you navigate the journey with clarity, confidence, and self-worth.

Do you ever wish your sibling relationship looked like the ones you see on TV—supportive, loyal, and close—but you’ve accepted it may never be that way? If you’re tired of the hurt and the hope colliding, let’s talk. Maybe you just need space to grieve what the relationship isn’t, or maybe you want to explore ways to protect your peace when family dynamics get messy. I get it—it’s painful to realize you can’t change someone else, but you can change how much control they have over your well-being. For many, siblings aren’t the safe place they hoped for. Maybe you’re just never on the same page, or maybe their behavior makes closeness feel out of reach. Longing for connection that isn’t there is exhausting, and what makes it worse is when family blames you for not trying harder to “fix” things. I’ve lived through sibling disconnect myself, and I know how deep it cuts. That’s why I hold space for these conversations—to remind you that you don’t have to carry that hurt alone.

My expertise comes from more than just training—it was forged by navigating a difficult path. I grew up in a traditional, homophobic Latin American household marked by poverty and domestic violence. As a queer person in that environment, I learned firsthand how to survive trauma, carve out my own identity, and fight for a better future on my own terms. That journey is why I’m so committed to this work. My lived experience informs how I help others through their own complex life transitions. It’s why I became a Behavior Interventionist for the autism community and completed 80 hours of Peer Support training—to turn my understanding into practical, effective support. I meet you with the profound empathy that only comes from having walked a similar road, ready to help you find your own path forward.

I've dated while still figuring myself out, created queer relationships, explored my gender identity, and dealt with issues like anger management and gambling habits. I provide a space where you can share your story without fear of criticism because I have experienced similar things myself. Whether you're working on relationships, quitting a habit, discovering healthy ways to handle conflict, or simply exploring who you are, I'm here to listen and offer support and help.

I’m an executive coach with over 15 years of experience, originally from South Africa, and I’ve lived in New York and London, giving me a broad cultural perspective on relationships. As a queer person, I’ve experienced the complexities of various relationship dynamics, from long-term monogamous partnerships to navigating the challenges of modern dating. My own journey includes an 11-year monogamous partnership in the UK, which, when it ended, felt like a divorce. Now, as someone in their early 50s, I have a unique understanding of how relationships evolve and change over time. I’ve worked with clients facing everything from heartache to infidelity, helping them understand their emotions and find practical, actionable solutions. I’ve also helped others navigate transitions—like encouraging a friend to write a letter to their younger self as a healing exercise. With the rise of dating apps, I’ve experienced firsthand what it’s like to navigate the modern dating world and all the complexities that come with it. Whether you’re struggling with a breakup, exploring your identity in relationships, or simply trying to navigate dating today, I can offer a safe space to talk it through without judgment.

I have operated in several different relationship frameworks, from monogamous marriage to solo polyamorous. From being married for ten years, to opening up the marriage for two years, to dating and having two girlfriends at once, to casually dating as a single person, I have made mistakes and learned a lot! I do not think one framework is better than another; rather, it depends on your values and goals for the relationship, as there are pros and cons within each framework. Honesty is the best policy, and communicating with clarity empowers everyone to enthusiastically consent (or not) to what is being offered... and what is not.

I came out in 2012. There weren't many resources at my disposal and I often wished someone could walk me through the process of exploration, or just listen to me figuring it out. Instead, I navigated a lot of it on my own. Finding myself took a lot of trial and error. There's so much to learn, but not enough research. Soon, others began asking me to guide them. I have always been happy to take on that role in such a vibrant community. Questioning leads to discovery, healing, strength, and community.

I’ve been in relationships with both men and women, and for much of my life, I didn’t know how to talk about that. People often wanted me to “pick a side,” but my truth didn’t fit neatly into the categories others expected. I was married to a woman, and when that relationship ended, I grieved more than just the person. I grieved the version of myself I thought I had to be in order to feel accepted. It took time, therapy, and surrounding myself with supportive people to begin feeling whole again. I’ve struggled with mental health and substance use along the way, both of which were tied to the shame and confusion I felt around identity. But those experiences also gave me the tools to listen deeply and support others without judgment. If you’re wrestling with labels, afraid of how others might react, or just feeling alone in the messiness of figuring out who you are, I’m here for that.