Hi! My father was diagnosed with bladder cancer in 2023. It was stage 4 but we had hope. He started taking medication and immunotherapy. The sequence of events is sort of a blur. His kidney stopped working, he lost his voice due to another tumor in his throat, he lost weight and his hair, and he looked like a very ill person. We flew from Kauai to be with him several times. Christmas 2024 he caught chickenpox and never recovered. There were many emergency hospital visits. Toward the end, when he was released from the hospital, we set up a space at home for him and hired caregivers to help. Caregivers turned into hospice and he passed away in great pain in February 2025. It was my first time dealing with parent grief. Our relationship was difficult, he was absent for most of my childhood and had many issues of his own. I have been working through all the emotions surrounding our relationship and his death. I can empathize and help anyone going through a similar process.