Life can shift in ways we never planned for—new jobs, moves, breakups, health changes, or sudden losses. Even good changes can feel overwhelming when the future looks unclear. I’ve been through my share of upheaval and have learned how to find steadiness when the ground feels unsteady. In our conversation, you’ll have a safe space to talk through what’s changing, process the emotions, and explore ways to ground yourself when nothing feels certain.

I went through a whirlwind of life transitions, including raising my daughter alone through to adulthood, facing the empty nest, returning to college, and pursuing my Bachelor's and Master's degrees, as well as a graduate certificate. I was navigating extreme change from dyeing my hair fun colors and exploring dating to marrying and separating in a blink of an eye. I know what it feels like to hit the reset button, no matter your age. Suddenly, I found my way back to myself. Let's work together to embrace your next pivot and build resilience when life feels like it's spinning out of control.

For much of my life, I faced challenges that tested my emotional resilience and sense of self. Through my own healing journey, I learned the value of slowing down, reflecting, and developing healthy coping tools. Over time, I became the friend and support system others could turn to during their hardest moments. My experiences have taught me the importance of listening with compassion, respecting each person’s unique story, and creating a safe space where people feel truly seen. Now, I want to share that same steady presence to help others navigate change, rebuild confidence, and discover their own inner strength.

The pandemic disrupted more than routines - it reshaped identities , relationships and the way many of us relate to our bodies, boundaries and beliefs . For me COVID-19 wasn't just a global event; it was a personal reckoning. Isolation bought clarity, loss revealed what was unsustainable . In my own life I had to re-evaluate what safety meant, how I showed up in relationships an what parts of me were worth preserving - not just performing, especially during a time of great changes.

In high school I was passionate about fashion and dreamed of becoming a fashion blogger, but my family shamed me and I chose the “safe” path of graphic design instead. For 10 years I worked in corporate roles that gave me the chance to travel and live in incredible cities, but inside I felt empty — I wasn’t living my truth. In my free time I journaled and did inner work, rediscovering the passions I had buried. Fashion was still there, but I had also grown a deep love for wellness and nutrition. Earlier this year I became a Certified Holistic Health Coach, and now I help others reconnect with their true passions, nourish themselves inside and out, and create lives that feel beautiful, authentic, and aligned. If you’ve ever felt like you had to hide who you really are, I’d love to support you on your journey.

I cared for Dad for 7 years, first in my home, then in his, each posing unique challenges. He was deferential in mine, but very controlling in his. I was building a professional practice, he was dealing with consequences of bladder cancer surgery. We had complicated feelings about each other: he praised my dedication to him, and feared I'd harm him with his medications; I resented leaving my home, being the caregiving sibling. I acted horribly at times (I locked him out of my RV which he dearly wanted to work on) and he reciprocated (making my friends feel unwelcome in his home). He'd call me by my mother's name. (Parental conflict was the norm growing up.) I came to have great compassion for her. We had moments of great generosity and we even had fun together, too. It brought out the worst and the best in us. But it never occurred to us to seek help, a trusted outsider to help provide perspective and verbalize frustrations. If this sounds familiar, let's work on it together.

The biggest challenge was coming out to myself. In the recovery community we talk about the "gifts of sobriety," things we learn about ourselves once the substance induced haze dissipates. My coming out was just that.....a gift. I had just turned 50 when I told my drinking story at a women's AA meeting. While I was clueless about myself, every lesbian in the room knew I was one of them. Due to internalized homophobia and unfamiliarity with the lifestyle, I intuitively felt threatened: I was embarrassed and ashamed, afraid of rejection. Being in corporate mode, I "hired" a "consultant" to help me assess my status. In the process, I found I already had lesbian friends. I found acceptance of myself and others. Whether you knew when you were 8 or are just now in discovery, coming out can be the most liberating of experiences. I've been there, done that, and I can help make your journey easier. You don't have to navigate it alone. Let me co-pilot your journey of discovery.

After leaving an abusive marriage, I rebuilt my life piece by piece — while raising my 11-year-old and earning my degree to become a teacher. It wasn’t easy, but it taught me that transformation doesn’t have an age limit.

Both of my marriages ended with the men I loved turning to men after our divorce. On the surface, I could tell myself “this isn’t about me” — but inside, it wrecked me. It made me question my worth as a woman, my sexuality, my femininity, and my very ability to be loved the way I thought I was. I carried a confusing mix of betrayal, inadequacy, and shame, even though logically I knew their choices weren’t a reflection of my value. This is something people rarely talk about — but I’ve lived it, and I know how isolating it feels.

A big move is more than packing boxes—it’s a chance to rediscover yourself. Leaving behind familiar streets, routines, and even relationships can feel disorienting, but it also creates space for growth. With every move comes both loss and opportunity: grief for what you’re leaving and excitement for what lies ahead. Transitions test your resilience, pushing you to question who you are without the anchors of place and familiarity. Yet, they also invite you to cultivate new community, explore unfamiliar landscapes, and step into parts of yourself you may have neglected. Moving can be a sacred threshold, a liminal space where the old no longer fits but the new isn’t fully formed. It asks: what do you want to carry forward, and what can you finally set down? Finding yourself through the big move means embracing uncertainty, honoring the past, and leaning into possibility. It’s not just about where you’re going, but about who you’re becoming along the way.

When I was in college, I thought I had to have everything figured out—career, relationships, calling, identity. The truth? I didn’t. And that pressure almost crushed me, leading me to graduate high school at 16, college at 20 and then go on to earn my MA at 22. Now, after decades of experience as a professor, coach, and mentor to young women navigating these same questions, I’ve learned that clarity doesn’t come from forcing a five-year plan—it comes from learning to listen inward and upward. I love helping young women who feel stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure of their next step rediscover who they are and how to move forward with purpose and peace.

I was married for 20 years, but for at least half of that time, my partner was having affairs with people of the same sex. We went through counseling, trying to heal, but I later found out the betrayal had continued behind my back. Going through the end of that marriage while raising two kids was incredibly painful, but it also pushed me to find a strength I didn’t know I had. After a year of being single, I dated again, remarried, and eventually divorced a second time. Each experience, though heartbreaking, led me closer to understanding myself and what I truly want out of life. Today, both of my children are in college, and I’m proud of the compassionate, grounded people they are becoming. I've written a book on raising kids with empathy and now focus on helping others navigate their own transitions. If you’re facing the wreckage of a broken relationship or struggling to rediscover yourself, I would be honored to support you.

My finalized divorce after 7 1/2 years of marriage felt like I slapped myself in the face with a brick. Not only were the typical financial and physical changes jarring, the emotional severance from the one I had deemed "my best friend forever," felt so immense. I was deeply lost, ashamed, and humiliated. Although I tried to "live well as the best revenge," I did not handle it well. I also did not have family or friends to turn to for help. Time ultimately helped and with the perspective of 27 years since then, I can still relate to anyone who is experiencing similar internal conflict. Divorce may be necessary, it may be "for the best," but it may also hurt like hell and feel extremely isolating. Sometimes all I needed was for someone to listen back then, and at a minimum, that's what I'll always be able to offer someone else.

Aging is a tricky thing. I have learned so much about life, myself, transition and reclaiming as I've journeyed through the last 15+ years. No one prepared me for the cycles and what would be happening. I have discovered that I was and am able to recenter myself and be authentic and whole. The journey is hard. I have lived experience with childhood trauma, disordered eating, substance abuse and early widowhood. I imagined that once I reached 50's it would be smooth sailing. I was wrong! Let's talk about your experiences and discover how you can be your best as you grow!

For the ones clocking in every day but questioning if this is really the life you want. When work feels unfulfilling, when promotions and growth never come, or when the only thing keeping you in your job is the pension you’ll collect someday—it’s hard not to wonder if you’re wasting your time. You see other people doing work that excites them, living lives they actually enjoy, and you can’t help but ask: Why not me? Do you ever feel like you’re being held back, but you don’t know where to go from here? Maybe you’re curious about entrepreneurship but don’t know where to start. Maybe you’re weighing financial stability against happiness. Or maybe you just need space to say out loud what you’ve been afraid to admit: this isn’t fulfilling anymore. I’ve been there—questioning purpose, stuck in jobs that drained me, and rebuilding from scratch. Now I help people create realities out of the ideas they once thought were too crazy to chase. You don’t have to figure out your next move alone.

Hi, I'm Cal, a musician, vocalist, teacher & creative originally from Johannesburg, South Africa, based in Chicago, USA. I am a deep feeler & empathic spirit, able to feel the emotions, energy & pain of others, often being called as a safe space to help people heal. In my life, that has been full of joy, creative expression & connection, I have also navigated some surprising & challenging experiences. I cared for my dad financially & emotionally on my own through his chronic illness for a large part of my adult life & navigated his death in my 30s. I have also navigated mold illness, being in and leaving abusive relationships, divorce, immigration, armed robbery among others. I also adore my deeply magical & radiant life! All of these experiences were portals & teachers that deepened my empathy, intuition & ability to hold sacred space for others as they own their emotions, trauma and stories as valid, powerful & the path to their greatest liberation, empowerment, joy and peace!

I’ve navigated multiple major life transitions — moving across states, pivoting careers, managing health challenges, and building my own business from the ground up. Through those seasons, I’ve learned how to create stability in the midst of uncertainty, honor my capacity, and rebuild my life in ways that feel aligned rather than forced. I bring lived experience, practical tools, and gentle encouragement to help others find their footing during big changes. In our conversation, I’ll provide support, gentle perspective, and encouragement to help you find stability and move forward in a way that feels aligned with who you are. Talk with me about adapting to major life changes with self-trust and resilience ✔ Approaches for moving through career pivots and personal reinvention ✔ Finding stability and clarity during uncertain times ✔ Ways to honor your limits while building a life that feels aligned

As a first-generation college student and first-generation corporate worker, I had to figure everything out on my own, from applying to schools and building a resume to opening a 401(k), choosing an HSA, and learning how to navigate the world of corporate benefits and workplace etiquette. Watching my parents hustle through the 2008 recession taught me early on that I deeply value stability—and for me, that has come from a 9-to-5 job. That stability has allowed me to take control of my finances and start building the kind of security I’ve envisioned for years. Now, at 26, I’m often the youngest person and only woman in the room, especially in my male-dominated corner of tech. It hasn’t always been easy, but it’s pushed me to learn how to advocate for myself, make the most of every opportunity, and be proud of how far I’ve come. I’ve become the friend who loves to talk openly about jobs and money, and I’d love to help others just starting their own path (especially those going to college and trying to break into the 9-to-5 world with no roadmap!)

Becoming a parent changed my friendships in ways I never expected. Some friends drifted away when I couldn't make last-minute plans or stay out late anymore. Others seemed uncomfortable with my new reality, like they didn't know how to relate to me once I had kids. I felt guilty for not being as available, but also resentful when friends didn't understand why a simple dinner out now required two weeks of planning. I was grieving the spontaneous connections I used to have while trying to figure out who I was in these relationships now. The loneliness was real. I found myself surrounded by people at playgrounds and school events, but craving the deep conversations and authentic connections I used to have. Making mom friends felt awkward—were we connecting as people or just because our kids were the same age? I struggled with boundaries, too, feeling like I had to say yes to every social invitation to prove I was still fun, even when I was exhausted. I was trying to maintain my old friendships while building new ones, and doing neither very well. What I learned is that friendships, like everything else, need to evolve with your life stages. Some relationships naturally faded, and that was okay. Others deepened in unexpected ways when I got honest about what I needed and what I could offer. I discovered that quality mattered more than quantity, and that showing up authentically—even if it looked different than before—was better than pretending nothing had changed. If you're feeling disconnected from old friends, struggling to make new ones, or wondering how to maintain meaningful relationships while parenting, you're not alone in this shift.

I've had my fair share of bad breakups as well as a divorce. I had five long-term boyfriends and each of them cheated on me ending in a bad breakup.. Then, I had a divorce that I chose to leave eighteen years of marriage for solid reasons but it was still very difficult to do. I have also been in a situationship which that breakup can be very difficult because it isn't recognized as a breakup yet it truly is one. Letting go of that person and all those habits and routine you'd gotten so used to being with them isn't easy to let go. It can be even more difficult when you're blindsided and discover they'd been cheating on you. You thought they were this faithful person in the relationship yet discover they were living a double life while cheating on you. It turns out you're better on your own and one day the right one will come along. But in the meantime, I'll show you how to cope and live your life to the fullest. Cry, scream, let it out, then move onward because it's YOUR LIFE to live!