I didn't come out until I was 26. I was a deep Christian married to a man when I realized that I was a lesbian. I told him when I was 24 and told the world when I was 26. I had had two kids and we were in the midst of adopting a teenager who was extremely homophobic. Coming out was one of the hardest things I've ever done. It was also one of the most rewarding things I've ever done. I am now married to a beautiful woman and raising my two little boys as an out and proud lesbian who also happens to be gender fluid. I have embraced my identity and love my queer self.