For a long time I was a people pleaser, and through therapy and lots of self reflection and work with the tools I was given in therapy, I learned that it all stemmed from the abandonment issues I had from my childhood,I wanted to be liked and appreciated,and when it didn’t happen I began to self medicate, with alcohol ,but after a while I had to drink more to feel better, and my adopted family didn’t except me being a lesbian which made my issues worse. I over came those things and I learned to embrace my family and set boundaries. They came around and started to embrace me too. I learned it was ok to tell people how you truly feel and if they love you they won’t leave .