There are so many things I thought I would do and be -- and then finances, family dynamics, accidents, illness...life happened. I had to redefine myself: who I am, how I move through the world, and how I find meaning. It's a quiet pain to trade one dream for another, one that feels a whole lot like failure. And in our culture, we bear our perceived failures in silence, missing out on the opportunity to connect with one another over a very common, very human experience. Let's break the stigma together. We can mourn the you that you lost or who will never be, dream out loud about you you are becoming, and, even, if useful, start to draw up a plan for how to bridge the gaps and fill the missing spots that make it feel hard to see the next steps. Let's meet the today you, with all your talents and challenges, and map a life that's yours.