I know how confusing it is to love someone who feels like both your safe place and your biggest trigger. I used to think the push and pull meant passion, and that all great love stories had chaos in them. But deep down, I was stuck in a trauma loop, mistaking intensity for connection. Walking away felt impossible because the bond wasn’t just emotional, it was also chemical. My body was addicted to the highs and lows. Once I learned what a regulated connection actually feels like, it blew my mind how peaceful love can be when it’s safe. It’s not about cutting people off cold turkey or pretending you don’t care. It’s about understanding why you feel pulled toward pain and learning how to choose yourself first. That’s the clarity I want to help you find: what love feels like when it’s not a survival response.